Effortless Orgasms Are Possible

I recently started working with a great looking woman who first came in my door so stressed that she could not sit still without constantly re-arranging her body. That first day, her eyes were speedily moving around in hypervigilance. She could not finish one sentence in the rush to get to the next.

What she said came from a rehearsed circular thinking in her head. She did not allow herself time to feel. She told me she hated herself and especially her body. She grew up with a self-righteous alcoholic father and a Catholic mother who did NOT allow herself or her children to feel feelings, especially those of pleasure.

She complained that she had a dark secret: she was 49 years old and she had never had an orgasm! All her friends were telling her of their great lovemaking, ending in earthshaking orgasms. . . Whether they were telling her the truth or not, she believed them and guessed there was something wrong with her.

Talking to Jane did not seem the best approach, because her rigid belief that there was something wrong with her would just filter out my words. I had to try something more direct. Read more

Losing Your Home Without Losing Your Relationship

If you check on RealtyTrac.com, you can see how many houses are in pre-foreclosure in your neighborhood. I checked my own neighborhood recently, and was shocked to see that just in the area with my zip code, there are 1,120 houses in pre-foreclosure. It’s scary.

I understand the trauma that you experience when you lose your house. You have identified with being a homeowner, and when you lose your house, you feel like you lose part of yourself. You are suffering from a shocking loss that few seem to understand. Read more

Break Free from Old Beliefs into Love and Abundance

If you ever feel that in spite of your best intentions and even great effort, you still seem unable to create and/or maintain the loving relationship you desire, then the following approach might help you.

Take a moment to reflect on your parents and your upbringing as a child. Make a list of what your mother and father believed about sex and love. Read more

To Fake or Not to Fake

On the Fourth of July, I had an experience that I never had before. I stood right under fireworks that exploded right above me. While my eyes were taking in the incredible beauty of  the show I was feeling the explosions in my heart.   The explosions reminded me of a fantastic, romantic night I spent the weekend before.  I felt little bursts of pleasure in all the cells of my body…
It was awesome.  I was feeling so energized and excited that I skipped all the way home.

However, I want you to know that sometimes orgasms can be quiet and very deep.  At  other times, you know you are not able to have an orgasm at all.  Women sometimes feel that they have to fake an orgasm with high sounds  and fast breathing in order not to disappoint their lovers.  Men who might know about explosive orgasms might measure their own ability as lovers, by a woman’s ability to have explosive orgasms.

What would you do then?  You might ask yourself, “should I fake it or not?”    Read more

Financial Abundance and Sexual Expression

Financial abundance and sexual expression seem to go hand in hand for many.
How do you feel when you have an abundance of money and time? Do you feel sexually more vibrant, more romantically inclined, are you in a better mood to attract more of what you want?

This is important to remember especially during these financially challenging times that we are currently experiencing. People hold on to their money because they are afraid things will get worse, and things do get worse because everyone is holding on to their money. It is a vicious circle.  Are you asking yourself how you can break this circle?       Read more

Relationships That Work

Enlightened relationships fulfill all aspects of our lives. We trust each other and we feel we are on the same team so we like to help each other. There is a deep sense of belonging. We discuss important issues together. We laugh together. We love to express our sensuality freely, with enthusiasm and a sense of discovery. We feel powerful enough to be vulnerable in each other’s presence. We communicate with honesty and openness from our authentic selves. We are nurturing a seed of love that blooms into a flower that expands its essence to our surroundings. As we love, we feel a connection that goes beyond our bodies. We start sensing that we are more than our body and become conscious of the divine connection. We want to live fully and contribute to life.

In other words, life together is safe, sexy, powerful, loving, expressive and expanding beyond our bodies. Read more