Deeper Love – Allow Yourself to Be Imperfect

How do you keep your relationship afloat and moving toward the destination of deep love and union? By staying conscious as you are gliding through the high waters of life.

Are you conscious of when you start holding back emotional truths and thus clouding the clarity of consciousness? Clouding the clarity is only the beginning of the damage you do to your relationship. Read more

Tips for Eating Right and Living Well

Did you make a New Year’s resolution to start exercising more, or get on a new diet? Here are some Tantra tips on diet, nutrition, and living right to develop your sexual attractiveness, and increase your energy.
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The Ocean Breath

This amazing breathing technique brings you renewed energy and promotes full-body relaxation.

I’ve written an ebook to explain the technique, and have created a companion audiobook to guide you through a meditation using Ocean Breath to focus your mind and release tension.  They are now on sale through December 31st.

Read more and get your copies here.

Happy Holidays from Carla Tara

Wishing you

the most peaceful Holiday time of this year that is ending

and an inspired, blissful and prosperous 2010.

Love,
Carla

The Gift of Self-Respect

It’s Christmas time—a time when most people are opening their pocket books and their hearts to give presents to the people they love. It’s heartwarming. Even I, who believe that a present should be given any time you feel so inclined and not at a specific date, feel the spirit of giving more than usual. Today, I noticed myself humming tunes of love songs and then even inventing words to them that include the people I love.

However, for many people festivities like Christmas bring up lots of emotions, and for lovers who are on the verge of break-up, festivities usually are very stressful and breakups can be precipitated by expectations that the lover does not fulfill.

“Why buy an expensive gift for a girlfriend I don’t respect?” a young man asked me the other day in a counseling session. As he described her, she sounded like someone no one would like to spend his life with her. Read more

Gentle Sexiness Before Bed

Falling asleep in pleasure opens the body/mind/emotions to healing.

Healing means becoming whole. Healing happens when we are in pleasure. When we connect with ourselves or with our lover in pleasure, we integrate the sometimes incomplete, unfinished experience with our higher mind. When that integration happens, the knowledge of what we have learned and experienced is transmitted to every cell of the body and we heal on a cellular level. Read more

The Art of Ecstatic Love and Deep Connection

Tantra is the art and science of living consciously and joyously. It teaches to fully accept and expand sexual pleasure as a gift, and to celebrate it to go deeper into love.

Most people’s perception of Tantra is limited to controlling sex so you can have it for hours and hours in strange positions. Tantra is much more than that. It includes 64 arts that support you to be the most sensitive and accomplished lover of life and of another person. It includes the art of understanding the energy flow, of communicating deeply from your feelings, the art of romance, of setting up a room that will encourage you to create a mood that takes you higher into your fullest potential of vitality and passion, and more… Read more

Effortless Orgasms Are Possible

I recently started working with a great looking woman who first came in my door so stressed that she could not sit still without constantly re-arranging her body. That first day, her eyes were speedily moving around in hypervigilance. She could not finish one sentence in the rush to get to the next.

What she said came from a rehearsed circular thinking in her head. She did not allow herself time to feel. She told me she hated herself and especially her body. She grew up with a self-righteous alcoholic father and a Catholic mother who did NOT allow herself or her children to feel feelings, especially those of pleasure.

She complained that she had a dark secret: she was 49 years old and she had never had an orgasm! All her friends were telling her of their great lovemaking, ending in earthshaking orgasms. . . Whether they were telling her the truth or not, she believed them and guessed there was something wrong with her.

Talking to Jane did not seem the best approach, because her rigid belief that there was something wrong with her would just filter out my words. I had to try something more direct. Read more

Losing Your Home Without Losing Your Relationship

If you check on RealtyTrac.com, you can see how many houses are in pre-foreclosure in your neighborhood. I checked my own neighborhood recently, and was shocked to see that just in the area with my zip code, there are 1,120 houses in pre-foreclosure. It’s scary.

I understand the trauma that you experience when you lose your house. You have identified with being a homeowner, and when you lose your house, you feel like you lose part of yourself. You are suffering from a shocking loss that few seem to understand. Read more

5 Simple Steps to Joy

This morning as I woke up, I felt grateful that I am alive and have a chance to express myself.

So, today I want to share with you 5 easy things I do that contribute to my joy, and can work for you too:

1. Start the day with at least one thought of what we are grateful for.
2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day and pay attention to our breathing. Notice when it starts slowing down and become deeper when we pay attention to it. Then inspiration has a space to come in
3. Smile as often as we can, even for no reason other then to increase our happy hormones. Smile is the ultimate anti-depressant. And it is contagious.
4. Taking a walk paying attention to how our bodies feel. What muscles are involved in the walking? Is the body loose or rigid? The moment your notice rigidity, it usually melts and you can enjoy the walking more.
5. Call a friend who might need support. That nourishes the relationship and ourselves.

What contributes to your joy?

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