Most people’s perception of Tantra is limited to controlling sex so you can have it for hours and hours in strange positions. Tantra is much more than that. It includes 64 arts that support you to be the most sensitive and accomplished lover of life and of another person. It includes the art of understanding the energy flow, of communicating deeply from your feelings, the art of romance, of setting up a room that will encourage you to create a mood that takes you higher into your fullest potential of vitality and passion, and more…

l embraced Tantra fully, and I teach it passionately because it has helped me to free myself from limiting emotional conclusions about sexuality, and to accept on all levels of my being that sex is an powerful force that amplifies any intention I hold. So if you intend to increase your love or vitality or abundance, your sexual expression is doing that. If you have the intention of connecting deeply with another and experiencing bliss together, sexuality becomes a very high expression of love, and learning to become the best lover you can becomes very important. Tantra encourages you to become the ultimate lover on all levels.

Tantra is a path that successfully unites sexuality with spirituality. It is the only spiritual approach I know of that faces the sexual challenges directly and teaches us how to use sex in a safe, and powerful way. It is a path to enlightenment, which can be reached by transcending our dualistic state of mind. Often we think one thing and feel another. Tantra uses our natural sexual energy to heal the split between body and spirit, between thinking and feeling, and helps you feel whole and really fulfilled.

It is not about how many hours you spend in sexual activities, although it helps with that too if you so desire. Tantra guides you to generate, heighten and transform sexual energy to more subtle energies as you channel it up through higher energy centers in the body (chakras). With the intention of transforming this powerful energy, you can create a new you.

Chakras are wheels of energy. The Hindu tradition believes that there are seven energy wheels that need to spin freely to be fully healthy and to move the maximum amount of energy. The first chakra is situated at the base of our spine. It connects us with the earth, and when it is open and balanced we feel safe. The second chakra is about sex, fluidity, and juiciness; the third – the solar plexus – is about expression of willpower and self-esteem; the fourth – at the heart level – is about love and compassion; the fifth – at the throat level – is about free and honest communication; the sixth – at the forehead level – is about intuition; and the seventh – in the middle of the brain – is about connection with the part of us that is beyond our personality and reaches into the spirit.

The idea of Tantra is to balance these energy centers and to raise the vibrations of pleasure from the first and second chakras to the higher chakras to express self-esteem, love, honest communication, intuition, and finally to merge with into your ultimate transcendent reality. It transforms the sexual energy that is coiled in the lower chakras into love and into light.

Tantra is also a path to complete intimacy with oneself and with another being. Many find it easier to be physically intimate than to share true emotional intimacy. We hold back on letting others see us as we are, especially the parts of us that we judge as bad. Many are more interested in learning lovemaking techniques, which Tantra offers in abundance, than to committing to emotional and spiritual intimacy and absolute honesty with a partner. It seems logical that, in order to achieve the highest state of union with All That Is, we must first be willing to be fully open with at least one human being.

Furthermore, even on a less cosmic level, in order to fully heal ourselves from the shame of our imperfect state of being human, we long for a person who loves us as we are. However, in order to be able to allow that love to penetrate us and heal us, we must first be willing to fully accept ourselves with all our desirable and undesirable qualities.

Tantra gives us plenty of suggestions about how self-acceptance can be reached, and guides you gently to go beyond self-acceptance to honor our true God self.

Sex is very important in our lives. It is a powerful creative force and it leads to orgasm. Orgasm is probably the closest some of us get to the experience of enlightenment. For a more-or-less brief moment, we get to forget ourselves, our problems, our egos, and just be with pure energy, with God.

Tantra guides you gradually to lengthen the peak experience of sexual ecstasy so that, in a way, we get to “hang out” with God longer. This expands our consciousness so that, when you come down to the dualistic plane, you see yourselves and life in a new way. You can actually experience the love that supports the whole cosmos. It is awesome.

When I started playing with the idea of making Tantra my path, I was surprised to notice my resistance to practicing it, finding “plausible” excuses not to find time for it. I remember feeling a similar resistance to my meditation practices. My resistance was confusing to me because here I had found a path that allowed me to use pleasure to reach God and I was avoiding it. Why? After some inner search I realized that this pleasure was different from the previously felt pleasure, which was mixed with pain and guilt. This, however, was pure pleasure, and I did not know how to be with it. Slowly, with a lot of patience and practice, I started to build up my capacity to sustain pure pleasure. I also had to overcome the voice of my internalized mother, who condemned me for feeling sexual pleasure in the first place.

With practice I was able to relax my body while being at the same time in a highly aroused state. Somehow these two states are not mutually exclusive, as one might be tempted to think. In Tantra one can relax because there is no issue of performance. The process itself is the reward. Only through being fully in the process can one reach the highest orgasm.

Do you necessarily need a partner for Tantra love? No. Many tantric exercises can be done alone. In fact, learning to love and honor your own body is an important step toward the tantric experience with a partner.

Tantra helped me break old taboos and heal my past emotional and physical traumas connected with my sexuality. I can now use this additional experiential knowledge to help woman, men and couples in my New York.

To my great joy there are also people who are already fully sex positive and emotionally healthy and feel great with high erotic energy flowing through their bodies. It is a pleasure to assist those people to achieve higher levels of ecstasy alone or with their partner, whether I can help them in private coaching, or in the wider sharing of a workshop.

Carla guides you through powerful exercises to help you change those beliefs that limit your highest potential for intimacy. You will learn to cultivate sensuous spiritual energy, and use it to empower your new expanded vision.

Discover insights and useful ways to:

· Achieve greater harmony in your relationships

· Heal wounds that may have contributed to closing your heart

· Open up to love responsibly, yet with spontaneity and innocence

· Uncover and trust your intuition

· Make choices from your inner core

· Communicate your truths, softened by your heart

· Bring more orgasmic energy into your dance of life.

What others are saying about this book:

“Namaste Carla! I just finished Lessons from a Tantric Tango Dancer and know you must be so proud of your accomplishments. This book will bring much joy and understanding to so many people. It was such a brave book in many ways and the courage and understanding you show is remarkably insightful regarding today’s issues. What I really love about the work is the incorporating of the Faces of Eve devoid of enslaved attachment to Jungian theory and your unique explanation of the “natural” expressions of our abilities and senses.

And you have my heart racing to start tango lessons.  When my wife and I were in Buenos Aires in May, we watch with awe at the way the locals arrived at partnering and dancing. They were really “attached” and in the moment. Fully. Observing them made us want to try, but now we understand why we couldn’t do it. We needed to understand the open heart and soul connection. Before, it was our impression that dancing was in a way, ego driven and not about the “other”. Wow, thanks for explaining this dance from your point of view. Melongas are definitely on the horizon for us!

In finishing, I just can’t say enough about how right I feel about what you say and the useful lessons I will be putting into practice. It’s like a found a soul mate out there, Carla. We wish you continues success and always, a lovely, wonderful, happy and healthy life. Regards, Philip”

“Just finished reading your book. I enjoyed it very much…..especially the stories of your childhood journey. You are amazing…..thank you”   ~Baba Dez: Founder, The Sedona Temple

“This is an amazingly honest and sincere introduction to Tantra as a spiritual and as an art form. The connection to tango makes a very nice analogy. And Carla’s honest personal accounts and experiences give the book a very human and personal touch. Well worth reading and will introduce you to an intersting dimension of human sexuality.”  ~Vincent S. Dagati

“In her book “Lessons from a Tantric Tango Dancer: A Journey to Intimacy, Relationships and Love,” Carla really explains how to lead a tantric life without using Hindu names of Gods and Goddesses, just the essence of the teachings.

She skillfully invites the reader to connect with their deepest core, recognizing their essence as courage and love. It is from this core self that we can change our limiting beliefs and get to play in life on a larger scale with joy in our heart.

I cried when Carla choose to understand her mother more than being understood by her. That moment of forgiveness was touching and precious.

It is a book written with clarity and passion, strewn with pearls of wisdom. I rejoiced in the evolution of Carla’s life and identified with her throughout the book, and especially in the part where she recognizes the beauty and power of reaching a balanced life that nourishes the soul.

I applaud her for the courage and trust she so openly displays as she candidly tells her story of personal growth. Carla’s understanding and acceptance of the struggles in her past, gives me a model of how to transform life’s challenges into the stuff that helps me to be stronger and wiser!”  ~Mare Simone: Tantra Yoga Teacher

“Ten years ago I had the good fortune to meet Carla on the tango floor. I had read of tantra, but had never met a teacher. We have talked about the relationship of tango and tantra, but, mostly, we have continued to dance together. She has generously helped me bring tantra into my tango by her presence with me on the dance floor, and by encouraging me to feel the subtleties of breath and heart connection to find deeper connection with the woman. Over time, she has taken my tango to a new level! Carla’s book gives words to the wise and generous spirit I have come to know on the tango floor. ”  ~Jim Depeyster: Tango dancer

“Carla Tara is one of the most inspired and insightful writers on the subject of Tantra I have ever experienced. Her latest book, Lessons FromTantric Tango Dancer, not only describes technique and methodology of Tantra that is effective as well as appropriate, but also the attitudes and paradigms that must be in place for an experience of Tantra to be from the heart and not just of the body. Carla’s experience with the topic is extensive and her knowledge has been gained through years of research and as an international teacher on the subject. Her love of the Tango is as passionate as is her love of Tantra. I strongly recommend this book.”  ~Franklin Levinson